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Facing a confusing or complicated situation can feel debilitating. Often the way out is to simply start gathering facts. If you are wondering if your partner has a drinking problem – go to Alanon and learn the facts about addiction. Anxious that you might have a serious disease? Tell your doctor and get the prescribed […]

As children, we had to depend on others to feed us, wash us, and dress us. Growing up, we depended on parents, teachers, and other members of the community to teach and guide us. So why is it many adults struggle to find the right about of dependency with their partners? Codependency is enmeshment, where […]

Have you ever found yourself losing your cool over something trivial? The word HALT can be a good way to check in with yourself to see what is going on. Ask yourself: Am I Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Those are basic needs that must be addressed before we can fully participate in our lives. Halt […]

Everyone is unique. That’s what makes life so interesting and fun! When someone is terminally unique, life is decidedly less so. Terminal uniqueness is when someone feels like no one else could ever understand what they are going through. “It” is only happening to them. No one else has ever been through this. Terminal uniqueness […]

Have you ever cared so much that it hurt? To care about someone can quickly turn into caringfor someone. Sometimes this happens without us knowing it. Without them asking for it. Or maybe they did ask for it – and you didn’t have the overflow or mental, emotional, or material resources to give and you did […]

Concentrating on what might go wrong is the root of all fear. If you have trained yourself to identify possible catastrophes as a manner of self-protection, perhaps it’s time for an upgrade. When we move from fear to faith, we shift our focus to the present moment and realize that all we can do is […]

Your number one responsibility in life is YOU. That can be challenging to remember, especially when we have responsibilities to kids, partners, parents, employees, and co-workers. Being overly responsible, overly helpful and overly mindful of other people’s lives can put a toxic strain on ourselves. By taking care of things that aren’t actually in our […]

New clients in group therapy often say things they don’t mean in order to seem “nice.” Little white lies like “it’s fine” and “that didn’t bother me” can be harmful to you and others. Speaking your truth to others can be done with kindness and grace. Sharing who you really are is a profound act […]

We live in an assertive culture that celebrates speaking up and helping others. We don’t often hear about the benefits of knowing when NOT to speak. Keeping quiet and letting others lead their own lives and make mistakes is giving them the dignity of their own experience. Next time you wonder whether or not to […]