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The streets you drive to work, the way you take your coffee (or tea), where you sit for dinner. Much of our everyday lives consist of patterns. These patterns are adaptations that save us time and quickly bring about results that enrich our lives. Unfortunately, when we repeatedly engage in behaviors designed to protect us […]

Have you ever worked hard to “get your way”? Making sure you get what you want no matter what can often come at a high cost. When getting what we want involves pretending to be someone you’re not, or manipulating others or events, the payment comes from your internal sense of self. Too many of […]

Sometimes emotions that are uncomfortable to feel, such as anger, fear, and grief-serve a great purpose in our lives. Is there any benefit, however, to feeling anxiety? A sudden wash of anxiety may alert us that swift action might be necessary to avoid impending danger. This is a healthy example of how anxiety works to […]

Just seeing the word ‘Rejection’ can elicit a strong emotional response. To some, rejection is often seen as a negative experience. Something that happened to us. That made us feel unwanted or cast aside. Have you ever considered how Rejection is also a power that we can use to improve our own mental, physical, and […]

Happiness is a brief moment of joy. Maybe someone paid you a compliment, or you reached a long-held goal.  There are so many things in life that can bring us happiness. Unfortunately, because it is based on external events, happiness is fleeting. Contentment, on the other hand, is an internal state. And one we should […]

Have you ever felt overwhelming emotion over something that wasn’t a big deal?  For example, if raising your hand and not getting called on inspires feelings of rage, then your reaction is an indicator that you are being triggered about something old, from your past. If children are not safe to express their feelings during […]

When we stew about what someone did to us or didn’t do for us, we are practicing the muscles of living in the past and being angry about things we are powerless over. Is that what you want to develop and strengthen? Giving into habitual resentment is like watering weeds. Behind every resentment is an […]

…to keep others warm. Helping others can be rewarded and fulfilling. It can be a way we express love. And it can help us feel close to people and build bonds with others. When we give from our reserves rather than our overflow, we damage our relationship with ourselves. If someone is cold, don’t set […]

Some people feel like they have to give a reason when we say no to a request. Perhaps they feel guilty for making the choice that is right for them. Or perhaps they fear their choice will be met with hostility or a negative consequence. When you offer reasons to manipulate someone else’s reaction or […]