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It has often been said that depression is when someone is living in the past and anxiety is when someone is living in the future. Being human means experiencing new things all the time and making choices and decisions that have far-reaching effects. Most people are just doing there best with what they know at […]

There are some problems in life that we just can’t Google. For example, when an adult is addicted to drugs, living on the streets and refusing to get help we often want to “figure something out” in order to help them and regain some semblance of order and control in our own life. Unfortunately, there […]

Life is full of choices, and each one has a consequence. For example, If you walk barefoot on wood, you might get a splinter. If you drink too much. You might get a hangover. Sometimes even not doing something has a consequence. If you don’t show up for a friend, don’t be surprised when they […]

Personal development can often lead to tangible results: new friendships, love relationships, careers, better health. The road to those results, however, is inside of us. Therapy, books, podcasts, and even prayer can help inspire us and guide us towards ourselves. The choice to actually recognize that real change is an inside job, however, is entirely […]

Do you spend your time with people because you have to? Because you need to? Or do you spend time because its good for you and brings you joy? When you participate in relationships and activities because of shame, guilt, or neediness you are strengthening the false belief that you are not worthy or capable […]

Everyone goes through periods where they feel bad. When people die, we grieve. When we are rejected or things don’t go our way, we can feel sad. Sometimes when we are ill we can also feel depressed. They are the right and natural feelings for those events. Labeling certain feelings as “bad” really means that […]

Do you know what perseverating means? It’s a term that describes when a person repeats an action, even if that action is no longer necessary. One of the more common ways in which a person perseverates is when they keep thinking about and returning to a topic that is inherently distressing. If you are perseverating […]

When something funny happens, we want to share it with someone we love. When something painful happens, we want to share that, too. It’s important that the people we choose to share our inner lives with is someone who will appreciate that gift. When we share our authentic self and story with someone who doesn’t […]

When we invest our time and energy into a relationship, we often want that investment to pay dividends. Unfortunately, some relationships never give back what you put into them. If you think back, the red flags and the broken, damaged, or one-way behaviors were there from the beginning. Just as a business that continually loses […]