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If someone doesn’t respect a boundary we have set, it’s up to us to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Maintaining our boundary is our job, not theirs. Yelling, freaking out, or explaining over and over to others why we need our boundary respected isn’t actually maintaining our boundary. For example: if someone keeps calling […]

Yesterday, a helicopter crashed in Calabasas killing nine people, including Kobe Bryant and his daughter, Gianna Bryant. Such accidents are not only tragic for the victims, but also for their friends and family. Accepting the loss of a loved one is never easy. But when death happens suddenly, as in a fatal accident to someone […]

Dramatic decisions or extreme actions change our lives, however, the biggest rewards are usually the result of very small actions done consistently over a period of time. What small actions can you do every day that lead you in the direction you wish to do?

People learn lessons in their own way and timing. When you need someone to learn their lessons in your timing, you are trying to assert dominance and rob others of their free will. No one tries to get a baby to run a marathon. Let people discover things and grow when it’s right for them. […]

Sometimes we can experience or witness something that inspires very intense, overwhelming feelings. We are “triggered” often because we are reminded of a painful experience from our past that we still need to process. If you have triggers, working with a therapist can help lessen your pain and increase your ability to not only cope, […]

Some emotions are too challenging to process on your own. What can you do when your therapy appointment isn’t until later but you need relief now? At GTLA we recommend this four-minute meditation by Kristin Neff to help patients experiencing difficult emotions. It is a panacea!! Practice self-care and try this meditation next time you […]

When we are in relationships, whether it’s with neighbors, family members or co-workers, sometimes what is actually your responsibility can sometimes be hard to see. Keeping your side of the street clean mean fulfilling your responsibilities in a healthy, clear, direct ways. What’s on the other side of the street is someone else’s responsibility. Life […]

Are you a people pleaser? Do you try to make everyone happy and comfortable? Do you avoid sharing information when you know someone might have an adverse reaction? People pleasing unfortunately can be a way of hiding your authentic self from the world. When you learn to tolerate the feelings of people who aren’t pleased, […]