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Sometimes people are raised in a home where they are taught that worry was an expression of love. Why, only a person who cared about you would worry about you. Right? Worry might be born out of care and concern, however, when children are chronically exposed to worry, they can lose their inherent ability to […]

Have you ever witnessed a situation where someone or many people were in confusion or conflict and you just knew exactly what the solution? And yet, no one asked for your input? It can be frustrating to watch people struggle, however, it can be important for people to learn in their own way and pace. […]

Family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors. There are all types of relationships in our lives. Active reflection about the nature and quality of those relationships can help us identify areas in our life where we can heal, grow, and expand. Take time to ask yourself – is the person I am in a relationship with someone […]

Building resilience means consciously choosing to feel all your feelings, even the painful ones. It can seem illogical to lean into painful feelings. Why would anyone choose to feel pain? Aren’t we supposed to avoid pain and seek pleasure? Yes, when we are talking about experiences. No, when we are talking about our feelings. Feelings […]

People tell who they are right away. Sometimes they tell you in words. Or they might show you in behaviors. Sometimes what a person doesn’t do also reveals a lot about someone’s character, empathy, and priorities. Making excuses for what people say, do, or don’t do is unhealthy and potentially harmful. When you tell yourself things […]

Resilience is the ability to return to the healthy version of yourself after experiencing stress or other emotional difficulties. This ability requires being strong, yet flexible. Tough, yet loving. Build up your resilience by witnessing your experiences. Begin by recognizing the major events in your life and your daily experiences while allowing yourself to feel […]

Some people think emotional mastery is the ability to put emotions aside or in order to get on with it or get the job done. Unless this type of compartmentalization is followed up with authentic emotional processing, you actually become a slave to those emotions, because they remain in your mental, emotional, and spiritual systems […]

Helping others can be an act of caring and even virtue. There can be times, however, when helping others is actually harmful. Everyone needs to learn from their own mistakes in order to grow. When we help others in order to spare them from a growth experience, we begin fostering an environment that stunts their […]

When did you last set goals for yourself? As children, visualizing our future is a natural and fun exercise. As kids, we visualize ourselves as firemen, teachers, artists, dancers, doctors. As adults with agency, we can set goals for not just our professions, we can plan vacations, take up hobbies, change our living environments, and […]